Why did i think washing my relaxed hair at home would be such a big deal? It was nothing and i enjoyed it!

I used more conditioner than i wanted to because, for some reason my hair just wouldn’t take it in till i had done about 3 washes. I probably had a lot of product in my hair…i just don’t know. I will be 9 weeks post tomorrow and my new growth did not give me any trouble at all! I combed through my hair before getting in the shower, then washed my hair in one direction (going down) so as not to tangle it and i rinsed it in the same way. My final rinse was with cold water but i don’t know if that matters.

Once out of the shower, i t.shirt dried my hair for a few minutes then applied leave-in conditioner, moisturizer and coconut oil, in that order. Next i held it back in a ponytail and tucked in the ends. I wanted to tie a scarf so that my edges could lie down better but i had errands to run and didn’t do that.

I will definitely do this again. I don’t see the need to rush and get a re-touch. My new growth is manageable and i did not lose much hair…i think it was all shedded hair. My hairstyle sucks at the moment but i’ll see



I haven’t massaged my scalp in about 3 days. My scalp is not itchy which is a great thing seeing that last week it was really itchy.

I use a mixture of coconut oil and castor oil on my scalp in no particular ratio. The reason i mix both is because castor oil is really thick so i use coconut oil which is a lighter oil to make things easy. Besides, both oils have great benefits.

Castor oil is known to thicken the new growth that comes in which is why i chose to use it. However i think i may have to stop using it. I have heard some girls say that castor oil made them shed a lot of hair and i think this is what has been happening to me to. I did not realize that it was the cause at first.

I mentioned in this post that my hair was shedding more than i wanted it to. This was at the beginning of my relaxed hair days when i would make sure i used oils on my scalp nightly. Right now i am not consistent with this as mentioned above and i have noticed very little shedding. I had accepted the amount of shedding i used to have as normal but because the amount i shed now is very little, am shocked! You mean i don’t have to lose a lot of hair like i used to? LOL!

Anyway, i have decided to stop using castor oil on my scalp for now. Looks like coconut oil will be my main oil if i don’t decide to try out ‘Extra virgin olive oil’. I will see how this goes, if my hair stays as it is or not (in terms of shedding)


Its been slightly over 5.5 months since the beginning of my healthy hair journey. I can’t say that i have seen growth retention within that time, though my hair is growing. The growth isn’t significant enough to be noticed especially since i got a trim/cut over 8 weeks ago and before that, i experienced a lot of breakage when my hair was natural (i wasn’t gentle with my hair). However, I can not deny the fact that the health of my hair has significantly improved. What makes me say this?

1) Just yesterday i felt as if my hair was thicker than it was 2 months ago. I don’t know how but i like how full it is check out my length check pics
2) My hair is not breaking. I notice 1 or 2 broken pieces which is almost nothing…
3) No shedding! At least not as much as it was 2 months ago.
4) My hair continues to shine like its nobody’s business 🙂 no products involved.
5) My hair is so soft…butter soft i tell you

Every now and then i get little impatient with my hair but i have to remind myself how far i’ve come. Right now i just want to get to Arm Pit Length (APL), am getting there. Here is an excerpt from Sunshyne about hair journeys:

…within the first 3 months you should notice thickness, around the 6-7 month mark you’ll see length retention. Try not to worry. Just keep at it and make sure your hair is balanced 🙂

This is quite inspirational and true at the same time because, at this point of m hair journey, i have experienced thickness (and general good hair health) so now that am heading towards the 6 month mark, length retention will be apparent if i keep taking good care of my hair. Am so ready for this 🙂 !!!


I am still not okay with what i did to my hair last week. I feel like i messed everything up! Its been 3 days since i moisturized and sealed mostly because i was away on Saturday…gone to see Grandma, and when i got back i was too tired to do anything. Right now am just too lazy to do it.

My hair doesn’t have that fresh out of the salon look it usually has at around this time but it still looks good. Its not flat and i like how my ends are still kinda curled under from when i flat ironed.

Nonetheless, i have decided to do a cowash later in the night (its 1 am right now will do that at 10pm) so that i can put back the moisture i lost from flat ironing. My hair is not dry but i feel that it could be better and it has been better before.

I am so excited about this because it will be my first time washing/cowashing my hair at home since i got a relaxer. I can’t wait for the actual time to get here. I initially wanted to do it on Wednesday but that is be too far away…so Monday it is 🙂

My plan is to cowash, then aidry overnight in a ponytail which will be in a roller. I want to have my ends curled the i have them now only without heat…hence the roller. I am still trying to figure out whether or not i will use gel to slick my edges…i don’t want to but i’ll see. I will of course tie a scarf to keep my hair slicked down.



Myth: Frequent trims make hair grow faster.
Truth: “Hair grows a half-inch per month, whether you cut it or not,” says John Barrett, owner of the John Barrett Salon in New York City. Hair may grow slightly faster in the summer, but that has nothing to do with the stylist’s scissors and everything to do with hormones, which do speed growth a little. One thing a trim will do: Eliminate split ends, making hair look better.

Myth: You can mend split ends with the right products.
Truth: Once they’re split, that’s it. The only thing you can do then is cut them off. Celebrity stylist Jimmy Paul suggests making split ends less noticeable by applying a product containing silicone or beeswax. It will temporarily seal ends together, making hair softer and more manageable.

Myth: Coloring your hair causes major damage.
Truth: Products today – both at home and in the salon – are gentle enough not to weaken hair. In fact, some contain extra conditioners that may leave hair more manageable than before. Although it’s not necessary, “it can’t hurt to consult a professional stylist the first time you do anything permanent to your hair or scalp,” Kingsley counsels.

Myth: You can’t make flat, fine hair look full of body.
Truth: Five minutes with a set of large hot rollers will add life to straight hair.

Myth: Rinsing with ice-cold water after a shampoo will give you shinier hair.
Truth: It might wake you up, but a dousing of cold water will have no effect on the shininess of your tresses.

Myth: Switching shampoos can make hair look healthier.
Truth: It may seem so, but experts scoff. “Hair can’t tell the difference between brands or build up tolerance to any product,” says London-based hair and scalp expert Philip Kingsley. “Your favorite shampoo will work the same every time you lather up, week after week, month after month.” If you have very oily hair or favor a particularly sticky styling product that contains wax, it does pay to use a clarifying shampoo once every two weeks to wash away residue.

Myth: You should brush your hair 100 strokes every day.
Truth: “Brush it only to style it, because brushing pulls hairs out of their follicles and possibly weakens individual strands,” says Kingsley.

Myth: If you pluck out one gray hair, two or three will sprout in its place.
Truth: While this isn’t true, plucking out those gray strands is a bad habit. You can damage the roots, causing infection or leaving a scar.


With the state my hair is in right now, am beginning to think that maybe Jimmy was right. I really should get a relaxer. I feel that my hair is not at the top of its game right now moreso because i used direct heat on it. I like not using that kind of heat,its healthier then

I like how my hair feels right upto 6 weeks post but since i can’t relax at that point, i think i should stretch to 8 weeks the get a touch up relaxer.

I know stretching for long is good for he health of the hair (if you can manage it well) but 8 weeks isn’t bad either. I know that most people start protective styling at this point with braids, micro-braids, cornrows and what not but i don’t want that. These styles tend to put too much tension on my scalp moreso the hairline because they are done tightly. I don’t want them at all. I want to wear my hair straight and i love it that way.

I guess the only way to get my hair the way i want without using direct heat is to get a relaxer at 8 weeks post. Am a little sad that i can’t stretch beyond this…i could if i wanted to wear my hair curly.


Because i was rained on and my hair got wet, i had to do something about it because my hair was all frizzy. So, i tried to blow dry my hair but that didn’t work because my hair was so soft. I then decided to flat iron and i pretty much got it straight.

I focused mainly on the roots and did a decent job if i may say so 😉 I did 1 pass on the length of my hair.

To be honest, my hair didn’t look good liked i’d have wanted it to at that point and the ends were just straight so i used my flat iron to curl them under. I massaged my scalp with my oil mix and i was gong to wrap it but i looked dry.

I know it wasn’t totally dry because i had deep conditioned it the previous day but it was lacking shine and wasn’t juicy looking like it always is. I moisturized and sealed and that seemed to help a lot. So, i wrapped my hair and had it covered with my scarf till night time.

As always i couldn’t sleep so here i am now..blogging 🙂

I took down my wrap and my hair is ok. I don’t know how am going to style it in the morning because i will be going to my Gandma’s. It doesn’t have the swing/movement it usually has but it looks ok…i keep telling myself that!