Relaxer update|May

I finally did my hair on Tuesday (12th) at exactly 16 weeks weeks post relaxer. This stretch was not difficult and i possibly i could have gone longer but seeing as i self-relax at home, i didn’t want to run into problems trying to relax lots of new growth. As usual i used the ORS relaxer kit pictured in my last haul post.

I actually texlaxed my hair this time. I mentioned here that i would not smooth the relaxer after the application step because i kept getting relaxer burns – from i guess aggravating my scalp (sometimes i tend to get carried away with the smoothing).

Anyway, what i did was apply the relaxer like i always do. This time i worked faster and was able to shave off 10 minutes from my usual relaxing time #WIN! I used my fingers to slightly smooth my hairline. Usually, i part my hair in small sections and use the back of a rat-tail comb to smooth.

After about a minute or so, i got into the shower and rinsed off the relaxer. Then i did 4 shampoo washes using the ORS creamy aloe shampoo which is a neutralizing shampoo. What it essentially does is stop any relaxer thats still in your hair from further processing hair (neutralizes the relaxer – remember your Chemistry lessons? 🙂 ), it also washes off any relaxer thats still in hair and restores the hairs’ pH because you know, relaxers/chemicals tend to throw off your hairs’ pH balance. I used a mixture of ORS replenishing conditioner, peppermint oil and glycerin to deep condition for a few minutes.

As usual, i had my in-shower-post-relaxer-freakout-moment where i thought i’d gotten my hair straight. My hair felt so straight and light when rinsing off the deep conditioner. But when i got to rinsing the front section, i could feel some waves and that got me excited. I couldn’t wait to get infront of a mirror and admire the waves.

When i did however, i saw that the outcome wasn’t what i expected. The waves were not as i had envisioned in my mind – they were smaller/tighter. The edges on the quadrant i relaxed last would not stay down. I like my edges slicked down…my right side was behaving well though.

Of course i started asking myself what i had done. I really did not like my hair at that point. I attempted to style it in a wavy style but it took too long to dry and since i needed to go out i just threw it in a low bun. I just couldn’t wear wet (looking) hair down and head off to town like that.

The wavy style i attempted - old pic

The wavy style i was going for – old pic

When i got back home in the evening, i did 6 flat twists, went to bed and actually kept them in the following day (kind of took the day off). On Thursday, i wore my hair in a failed twist out – my hair was just not having it, and so today am rocking a curly somewhat messy bun to salvage the failed twist out. Thank God its Friday and am working from home today otherwise i’d not be able to get away with the look out there.

So, do i regret texlaxing my hair? No. My hair always looks better after one or two wash days (post relaxer). I’ll give it time to get its act together 🙂 In the meantime, i’ll keep reminding myself why i wanted to texlax in the first place…

1) Because i keep saying i want to. I once mentioned that i would transition to natural hair once my hair got to bra strap length. I got to bra strap (still there it seems) and i have zero interest in going natural. So…texlaxing it is!

2) I want thicker hair! My hair looks thick. Its actually medium textured and i’ve been told that i have a lot of hair. I just want more of that and i know for sure that texlaxing will get me there…call me greedy.

3) Waves!

'Bunny' tail

I’ve shared these pics of my (2011) natural hair numerous times on my blog. I really want to be able to achieve a similar look without having to go natural. Am sort of over straight hair…sort of.

4) No more relaxer burns! I didn’t get any this time *happy dance* 🙂 Texlaxing is healthier for my hair and scalp anyway. Natural is best, but am sticking with the creamy crack for now.

Check out this post when all i wanted was straight hair…i was a little upset when my hair got accidentally texlaxed. How things change 🙂 Looks like am embracing change.

Sorry for the lack of pics :/ I’ll try and put some together.


Relaxer prep |May

I did a henna treatment 2 weeks ago…



Since i did not want to do that again anytime soon, i decided to use mayonnaise to strengthen my hair for relaxer day. I prepped my hair in 2 steps. The first was the cleansing step because i wanted to apply the mayo treatment on clean and dry hair. I did that in the morning, put my hair in a ponytail and headed out.

Wash day products

Wash products

After wash products

After wash products

When i got back home, i proceeded to the second step. My hair was mostly dry at this point. All i did was mix the Mayonnaise with a blend of coconut and olive oil.

Cheapie mayo

Cheapie mayo

mayo-oil mix

mayo-oil mix



I kept it in my hair throughout the night and in the morning i rinsed it off and applied deep conditioning treatment. Since i was pressed for time, i only left it on for a few minutes while i carried on with the rest of my shower routine. I did not even mix any oils into the deep conditioner.

Now, the mayo did make my hair somewhat hard but not as hard as when i added an egg to it as seen in this post. Nonetheless, it got the job done. The deep conditioner also worked well on its own. It really softened up my hair and got rid of the mayo smell i had going on.

Once again i applied Venus leave-in conditioner and a bit of coconut oil and then put my hair in yet another ponytail. This has become my go-to style. I always apply some castor oil to my ends before going out to keep them from drying out too much. This weekend however, i gave my hair a break and rocked a loose low bun.

Suave Professionals Conditioner

Guys, this might very well be my new favourite product!

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Click on pic to enlarge

So, i mentioned in my previous post that i bought this conditioner from my cousin. She actually bought it because she loved the scent and didn’t notice that its geared towards colour-treated hair. Anyway, i used it yesterday for the first time and fell in love with it!

For the past 9 days i’d been wearing my hair straight and it got noticeably dry due to negligence on my part. I needed to wash it (yesterday) with a not-so-harsh shampoo that would get my hair clean and so i used ORS creamy aloe shampoo. I followed up with Suave professional conditioner. I did this earlier in the day so that i could do a mayo hair treatment at night on clean and dry hair.

After shampooing, my hair felt somewhat moisturized but yet squeaky clean. I don’t know if that makes sense to you but i needed to follow up with conditioner. And so i did that. The moment i put it in my hair, my hair softened up and it felt like butter. I kid you not. This conditioner is the business! Bear in mind that am 15 weeks 2 days post today.

I was very impressed by it which is why i decided to do a first impression kind of review post. I’ll use it again with Enliven shampoo (which i find to be rather harsh and concentrated) and see if i yield the same result. If anything changes i’ll let you know.

Having said that, for all of my readers who’ve been writing to me about coarse, dry, hard to detangle new growth or hair, I highly recommend that you try out this conditioner. It doesn’t have to be this particular one, just make sure its says Suave professionals on the bottle. I believe its better than Suave naturals (just my opinion guys). It costs (285/=) 10/= more, and is 373ml (292ml) less but it works really well.

Just slather it onto your hair, work it in really well and use a wide tooth comb to gently detangle your hair starting from the tips/ends of your hair and working your way to the roots. Do this under running water in the shower for added advantage.

Remember this review on Creme of nature moisture and shine sulfate-free shampoo? Imagine, using that and following up with this conditioner! Man, i can’t wait to try out that combo. You can’t go wrong with that. So again for my readers, try it out and let me know how that goes. I haven’t used the Suave Professionals shampoo and now am tempted to buy it (i know i will so look out for that review 🙂 ).

In other somewhat related news, I haven’t been able to find Enliven conditioner (or the shampoo) anywhere in Nairobi. I also use a body lotion by Enliven and yesterday i couldn’t find it in town! I had to switch to something new and settled for this one by Nivea. I hope i like it.

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Click on pic to enlarge

Thats it for todays’ post. Have a lovely day 🙂

Recent purchases|May


1) ORS relaxer kit 2) Mayonnaise 3) Perfect cosmetics hot oil hair cream 4) Vaseline petroleum jelly 5) Suave Professionals conditioner 6) Suave Naturals conditioner 7) Pure glycerin 8) Venus leave-in treatment

I did a mini haul last Monday because like i mentioned in a previous post I had run out of most of my hair products. This time i did not buy any shampoo because i have about 5 different ones…not to worry am curbing my product junkiesm 🙂

I mentioned here that i would relax my hair (at 14 weeks post) for an upcoming meeting but that did not happen. I ended up straightening my hair instead and have been wearing it like that for a week now. I should also mention that i have not worked out in a week! Didn’t want to sweat out my style 😮 I’ll relax my hair next week at 16 weeks post relaxer.

The mayonnaise is for the relaxer prep that i plan to do tonight. I need to strengthen my hair before putting it through harsh chemical treatment next week. I’ve done a mayo treatment before (see here) and i loved the result which is why am doing it again.

For deep conditioner, i got this one that has bone marrow extracts instead of my usual fruit extracts one because they didn’t have that. I honestly don’t like that it says bone marrow extracts but it smells heavenly. Still, i don’t think i’ll buy it again ’cause…bone marrow? Really? That is freaky.

The Vaseline, well, thats for basing my scalp and hairline on relaxer day because, you know, relaxer burns. I keep getting them and they are bad news! I need this.

I decided to pick up the Suave Naturals conditioner because i ran out of my last one. I bought the other one, Suave Professionals, from my Cousin Stella because she’d bought two of them. She kept borrowing my shampoos (we live together now) so i told her to just give me the conditioner in exchange for a shampoo…going to buy that for her today. You can never have to many conditioners right? Its not like shampoo.

I bought glycerin to use in place of honey (in my deep conditioner mix). The kind of honey i use comes straight from a bee farm and i run out of that too. So, before i get more of that, glycerin will have to do. Honey and glycerin are humectants, meaning they draw moisture from the air. So when present in hair, they keep it moisturized and soft.

And last but not least is the Venus leave-in treatment. I’ve been using Cantu shea butter leave-in conditioning and repair cream which has a somewhat creamy texture. Somedays i just need a runny/watery leave-in and for me, thats the Venus one.

#16. Visit someone i know

Hi guys! Long time right? Well, 2 weeks.

Lovely scenery, wouldn't you agree?

Lovely scenery, wouldn’t you agree?

I hope you all had a great Labour day weekend. I know i did. Last Friday my cousins and I packed up our stuff, loaded up two vehicles and drove down to the Coast to visit one of our Cousins and her family. It was a surprise visit and we got her good 🙂 This little getaway actually helped me accomplish another one of my 30 by 30 goals which was #16 Take a trip to visit someone i know. The road trip took longer than we expected due to the numerous stops we made and as a result, we got to our destination at nighttime. It was all worth it though, and I ended up meeting 3 other family members for the first time!


Since our destination was Voi, we did not drive all the way to Mombasa. I’ve always said that i could never live in Mombasa because of the hot-humid climate, but Voi, Voi is livable. I loved it there, but their food is expensive. Mombasa is more of a holiday/getaway destination for me. Being there makes me feel like am in a foreign country because everything there is different it seems. The climate, food, mode of dressing (in some areas), accent,…thats Kenya for you. Quite diverse.


Okay, back to my trip 🙂 Our host took us on a Game drive in Tsavo East National Park. It was a given seeing that thats practically her backyard. If you plan on going on any game drive, i suggest doing so very early in the morning or later in the day when its cool. We went there very late and it got dark pretty quick so we didn’t see that many wild animals. It did help though that we had my work vehicle – a tour van with a pop-up roof – and that made seeing and taking pictures of the few animals we did see easy. My cousins hired the vehicle from me (such a supportive bunch!), so for me it was a Bleisure travel; a mix of business with leisure/pleasure.


‘Shameless plug’: If you need to hire a vehicle for any kind of trip (Game drive, day trip, transfer i.e. hotel to airport and vice versa), shoot me an email and we’ll work something out 🙂

We also drove to Mwatate (i kept forgetting that name) and turns out we have family there too!

Sunday was our last day at the Coast. I remember one of my cousins waking me up to watch the Mayweather Vs Pacquiao fight (I’d asked to be woken up for that. I ended up not watching it. I know how it went because thats all everyone kept going on about when i got back to Nairobi…but i still plan on watching it). Once everybody got ready, we had breakfast, a short meeting, and a family photo shoot just before leaving.

On the way back to Nairobi, i fell asleep. I have no idea how long i was out. I’d been sleeping late and waking up early for fear of missing out on anything. You can imagine my shock when i woke up to find everyone but the driver asleep too. My brother and cousin were completely out. I kind of panicked. My thoughts were that there should be someone to make sure the driver doesn’t fall asleep at the wheel. On our next stop i asked my brother to take the back seat as his position as a co driver was no longer valid 🙂 I took over and stayed up for the rest of the trip.

On the Highway

On the Highway, a Zebra

During our stop over in Emali, we did some grocery shopping (we’d done the same on our way to Voi) because everything is cheap over there! I picked up a few things for my Mum and also some snacks because we hadn’t packed any lunch. Since we were in two different cars, we waited for the others to catch up with us.

Back in Nairobi, i stopped by my Aunts’ place (dropped off her son), drove into town to meet up with the rest of the crew and switch cars, met up with another one of our cousins, and then my brother and i dropped the remaining family members at their homes before driving back to ours. It was a long day to say the least. One that i would not take back. My Grandparents would have been proud. Seeing the family together is something that always brought them joy.